I Forgive Myself

I forgive myself for letting myself get sucked into some drama initiated by Husband. I violated my own boundary by responding to his drama with a long winded email.

I will stop that. I am still doing OK. I will do better next time. I have compassion for myself for the pain that that mistake has caused me. I forgive myself. I will stick to the boundaries that I have set that make me feel good about myself. I don't need to explain to anyone why I need these boundaries. I don't need to adjust them for anyone. I can trust my gut to tell me whether the boundaries I have set are good for me or not.

I have advised him that I only want minimal to no contact at this time. I want to restrict contact to email and only regarding important information about the kids. Of course he is confused about whether or not I see hope for us getting back together in the future.

Right now I need no contact, but that will change eventually. Just not now. I am working on myself and my recovery. Until I feel well enough and strong enough, minimal contact with him is what feels good for me. It has only been four months since we separated. I am not going to go into long explanations with him about how this stuff takes time. No more long explanations. No more attempts to justify my needs. These are my needs. I respect them. I expect others to respect them. End of story.